Everything You Need to Know About Wax Play This Holiday Season
Heat up your bedroom this holiday season in unique ways—you might consider the usual toy, but for a truly fiery experience, wax play stands unmatched.
At Noetic, we’ve gathered data from nearly 5,000 couples through an online survey.
Our findings? Interest in wax play is skyrocketing. “About 35 percent of couples report that at least one partner shows interest in wax play,” we discovered.
Let’s first understand what wax play is before diving into best practices. Wax play typically involves dripping or spreading hot (or warm) candle wax onto yourself or your partner for pleasure. While it often forms part of B D S M, it’s not exclusively so. “B D S M frequently eroticizes high-sensation experiences like hot wax, which can be both frightening and exhilarating,” says Carol Queen, PhD.
To enjoy wax play both safely and pleasurably, you should arm yourself with essential knowledge. If the idea of playing with fire and dripping hot wax on your partner excites you, here are expert tips and tricks from Noetic members to get you started.
The Ultimate Guide to Choosing the Right Candles for Wax Play
When it comes to wax play, the right candle can make all the difference. Here’s a key tip: steer clear of regular household candles. What you need are special body-safe wax candles made specifically for this tantalizing activity.
“Beginners should opt for body-safe massage candles, which melt at lower temperatures and often contain skin-nourishing oils, leaving your skin wonderfully soft,” advises a private Noetic member. She underscores the importance of using candles crafted for wax play, highlighting that “soy wax candles are ideal due to their lower melting point, while paraffin wax offers a hotter and more intense sensation.”
Let’s break down the candle choices:
Choosing the Right Candles for a Safe and Sensual Wax Play Experience
Embarking on a wax play journey? The first step is choosing the right candle. It’s not as simple as grabbing any candle you have at home – safety and sensation are key here.
Opt for unscented, colorless soy or paraffin candles, ideally those specifically designed for wax play. “For beginners, body-safe massage candles are your best bet,” advises Uren. “They melt at lower temperatures and are often infused with skin-nourishing oils, leaving your skin feeling amazingly soft.” Uren emphasizes the importance of using candles intended for wax play, pointing out that “soy wax candles have a lower melting point for a gentler experience, while paraffin wax offers a higher melting point for a more intense sensation.”
Let’s break down your best options:
Preferred Candle Types:
- Soy Wax: The safest choice, according to Candice Smith, co-founder of The KinkKit and a seasoned sex expert. Soy candles cool quickly upon contact and are less likely to irritate the skin.
- Paraffin Wax: For those seeking a more intense and potentially painful experience, paraffin candles burn at a higher temperature.
Candles to Avoid:
- Beeswax: A definite no-go. Beeswax candles can burn the skin. Also, avoid candles that don’t list their ingredients, suggests Smith.
Remember, the right candle can elevate your wax play experience from good to unforgettable, all while ensuring safety and comfort.
Setting Boundaries and Choosing a Safe Word:
Before you even think about lighting a candle for wax play, let’s talk safety. Remember, you’re dealing with real fire and hot wax, which can burn or even scar if not handled correctly. It’s crucial to establish clear boundaries right from the start. For example, you might say, ‘Feel free to drip wax on my [specific body part], but please avoid my [another body part].'”
One Noetic private member, (An acclaimed expert,) emphasizes the importance of having a safe word, regardless of whether your wax play is part of a traditional BDSM scene. The goal here is pleasure, not pain (unless, of course, that’s your preference). So, choose a safe word that’s easy for both you and your partner to remember – something like ‘pineapple’ or ‘red’. Once you’ve got your safe word in place, you’re ready to safely light that candle and start your adventure.
Create a Safe Space for Wax Play: Fire Safety Essentials
As you delve into the world of wax play, setting up a secure environment is key. “Fire can be unpredictable,” warns a private Noetic member. “When playing with an open flame, the setting matters greatly. Ensure your play area is free from highly flammable items like tissues, curtains, or hair products.”
But that’s not all. It’s also wise to invest in a fire extinguisher – it’s a case of being better safe than sorry. After all, safety should be your top priority in these heated moments.
Furthermore, be mindful of the little things that can escalate quickly, such as lingerie that might get tossed aside, bed sheets, and even curtains, suggests Couple. It’s the small details that often make the biggest difference in maintaining a safe and enjoyable wax play experience.
Elevate Wax Play with a Touch of something else.
Ready to take your wax play to the next level? Consider blending it with other B D S M elements for an amplified experience.
“A popular practice at Noetic, is using an object to remove hardened wax,” shares a private member. “This often continues until every bit of wax is removed, regardless of its location.” However, it’s crucial to ensure both you and your partner are comfortable with more sensitive areas being involved. Open communication is vital – discuss and agree on what you’re both keen to try.
Introducing a blindfold can also elevate the thrill. Depriving the sense of sight heightens anticipation and enhances focus on the physical sensations. To add more variety, you can play with temperature contrasts by gently blowing on the cooling wax for a goosebump-inducing effect or using an ice cube for a chilling, pleasurable sensation.
After your session, it’s time to clean up. One of our members suggests using a plastic card or a comb to gently remove any remaining wax, assuming it’s not entangled in hair or that pre-applied baby oil has eased its removal. And just like that, your adventurous session is over!